Entry #5: Straight or Host?

As part of the Surrogacy UK Application, they ask if you are planning to use 'Straight' or 'Host' methods of surrogacy (or open to both options). For those of you who are new to surrogacy, there are two options available when it comes to pregnancy. The first option is Traditional Surrogacy (TS). This is sometimes called Straight Surrogacy and both terms are used interchangeably on the various surrogacy sites, groups and boards. From the position of a single father, TS is the process of fertilising the egg of the surrogate with his own sperm (or donor sperm), usually through home insemination. Think turkey baster, but more hygienic. As such, there will be a genetic link with the surrogate.

The second option is called Host Surrogacy (HS). This is sometimes galled Gestational Surrogacy (GS) and, you guessed it, both terms are used interchangeably. From the position of a single father, GS is the process of fertilising a donor egg with his own sperm through the process of IVF and this embryo is then transferred into the surrogate’s womb. Therefore, there is no genetic link with the surrogate.

This is a decision which I made many years ago. It was and still is my wish to use Host surrogacy in order to become a father, but having discussed this with other single IPs, I’ve come to realise that my original reasoning for using Host Surrogacy is, in fact, quite an outdated way of thinking. Let me explain...

At the time, when I was first setting out to research surrogacy, my main fear was “but what If she chooses to keep the baby?” This thought process led me to conclude that, should there be a dispute over parentage, the child would have no biological/genetic link to the surrogate. However, from discussions with other IP’s and surrogates, I have since come to realise that surrogates are going to be more worried about the IP’s not wanting the child at the end of the process.

There is no right or wrong method of surrogacy. Each route has its own benefits and obstacles and the choice will come down to your own personal circumstances. When you get talking to other surrogates, and through discussions on the forum and Facebook group you will soon see that there are some surrogates who are open to only one method, or both. So take your time, carefully consider what is right for you, and read up on each option before making your mind up.

Until next time, keeping the Dad dream alive!

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